A three-part approach for parents, children to draw closer to each other and to God

By John Shaughnessy

As a father and a longtime educator, Brian Disney knows the bond between parents and their children benefits both their lives in many ways.

So it flows naturally when the superintendent of Catholic schools in the archdiocese offers his insights on how three everyday practices can draw parents and children closer to each other while also leading them closer to God during this new school year.

“At a United States Conference of Catholic Bishops conference I attended this summer, Bishop Frank Caggiano of Bridgeport, Conn., shared three ways parents can help their children prepare for the sacrament of confirmation. I believe these three practices will benefit all parents and children,” Disney says. “Bishop Caggiano shared: Pray with your children every day, go to Mass for yourself, and live a virtuous life.”

Regarding prayer, Disney believes there are a number of ways that parents can share that practice with their children every day.

“Say grace before family meals,” he begins. “Pray a family rosary. Offer up your thoughts, words and actions each morning to the Sacred Heart of Jesus through the Immaculate Heart of Mary. Pray for the safety of all family members before leaving the house. Pray before going to bed. Pray special intentions for friends, family members and those in need.”

Disney also offers a different take on the importance of parents attending Mass on Saturday evening or Sunday with their children.

“The focus is often on the children. However, each one of us is also on our own journey toward heaven,” he says. During Mass, we are forgiven of our venial sins and are fed the bread of life for our journey. At Mass, we hear the word of God and how to apply these words to our lives. Tend to your own spiritual growth by attending Sunday Mass with your children.”

The third practice that he encourages parents to embrace—living a virtuous life—involves striving to be a role model for children.

“Our children learn more by watching us than by listening to us,” Disney says. “Living a virtuous life does not mean being perfect. Rather, it means living life in God and striving to be the best version of oneself. Treat others with respect and dignity. Be humble and put the needs of others before your own. Do the right thing even when it is hard. Forgive others and yourself.”

For Disney, all three practices connect to one goal: “Model Christian living to your children.” †